• Safer Sex in the Coronavirus Context

    Many authors address concerns about having safer sex during the COVID-19 crisis. Most advice focuses on enhancing your ability to enjoy self-pleasure. Others suggest experimenting with virtual ways to engage. While self-love remains an important thing, sometimes touching yourself just doesn’t cut it. And virtual love-making doesn’t work for everyone either. Early in the pandemic,…

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  • The Secret to Understanding Our Collective Trauma

    Collective trauma is expansive, inescapable, and often persistent. This type of trauma extends across communities and becomes transmitted across generations. This type of trauma impacts us at every level of our experience, from our day-to-day individual lives up to our largest social institutions. Bringing to mind our current experience with collective trauma When we think…

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  • You Hurt in Different Ways

    While everyone struggles right now, you hurt in different ways. Congratulations, you’re a trauma survivor living through a time of global trauma. Feels pretty terrible right? You may have already lived through this once, if you’re old enough to really remember 9/11. Fear gripped the nation, emotions ran high, and everyone looked for answers and…

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  • What Is Sex And Relationship Coaching? How Can It Help Me?

    Sex and Relationship Coaching is change-focused. I support clients in making the changes they seek in their life.When you want to change something about your relationship or your sex life – NOW – hire me. What kinds of things does sex and relationship coaching include? Your work with me typically involves: How and why does…

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  • Coping with COVID-19

    Last Monday, Indiana issued a shelter-in-place order. And here you are, coping with COVID-19. You are ordered, by the authority of the governor, to stay home as much as possible. All non-essential businesses are closed (what is an essential business anyway?) And there is so much uncertainty: how many cases of COVID-19 really exist, how…

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  • Teen with Depression Speaks Openly at TEDx

    Kevin Breel, a teen with depression, took a huge risk at a TEDx Youth event. Ever head of TED Talks? What began is a dynamic format for technology and design based presentations has morphed into a veritable treasure trove of great people sharing profound thoughts. Teen with Depression Says It Like It Is Kevin’s talk…

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  • Why Does It Matter if My Therapist is a Social Worker?

    If you pay attention, you will notice that different counselors and therapists have different letters that come after their name. MSW, MA, MS, LMHC, LMFT, LPC, CDAC, PsyD, etc. No we don’t list these initials just because we can. They actually do mean something important, something that makes a difference for you the client. It’s…

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  • Suicides Leave Two Questions Behind

    Last week a prominent artist in a community I belong to committed suicide on Thursday. I know him only through stories from my friends and the amazing art he created for the Indiana CORE Project last year (see image below). Watching my friends reactions reminds me of just how terrible suicide related grief really is. Grieving…

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  • Internal Barriers Dreams

    If money, time or other commitments were no obstacle in 2014, what would you do? Describe your vision! A seemingly innocent question. If the obvious barriers were removed – money, time, obligations – what would you do? The trouble is, these external barriers are nothing compared to the internal ones. The internal barriers are the…

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