• Learning the Delicate Dance of I-ness and We-ness in Polyamorous Relationships

    Why do I call polyamory an adventure? Often this question finds its way to me, and the answer lies in embracing life’s complexities in love and relationships, particularly in the context of polyamorous relationships. For me, polyamory isn’t about being an exotic creature different from monogamous individuals. Like everyone else, we do laundry, we go…

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  • Unveiling Love Beyond Exclusivity: A Voyage from Monogamy to Open Exploration

    As you sit alone on the couch a looming silence envelops the room, each tick of the clock echoing through the emptiness. It’s a scenario you and your partner discussed, analyzed from every angle, and yet the reality of it gnaws at you, curling around your thoughts like a persistent vine. Your partner is out…

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  • Our Newest Counselor – Dan Bowes!

    During the pandemic, we added a new counselor! Soaring Heart Counseling is thrilled to welcome a new member to our team, Dan Bowes! Recently we spent some time getting to know him with some questions that many counseling clients wonder but may not think to ask. Getting to Know Dan Bowes, NCC, LMHCA! Not immediately,…

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  • Quarantine Blues: What We Know

    You’re not imagining it – this is unnatural. As a species, humans survived by banding together. Dealing with a crisis like COVID-19 in social isolation runs counter to your essential human wiring. It simply doesn’t make sense to the parts of your psyche that are in charge of your personal survival. According to the New…

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  • Safer Sex in the Coronavirus Context

    Many authors address concerns about having safer sex during the COVID-19 crisis. Most advice focuses on enhancing your ability to enjoy self-pleasure. Others suggest experimenting with virtual ways to engage. While self-love remains an important thing, sometimes touching yourself just doesn’t cut it. And virtual love-making doesn’t work for everyone either. Early in the pandemic,…

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  • The Secret to Understanding Our Collective Trauma

    Collective trauma is expansive, inescapable, and often persistent. This type of trauma extends across communities and becomes transmitted across generations. This type of trauma impacts us at every level of our experience, from our day-to-day individual lives up to our largest social institutions. Bringing to mind our current experience with collective trauma When we think…

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  • You Hurt in Different Ways

    While everyone struggles right now, you hurt in different ways. Congratulations, you’re a trauma survivor living through a time of global trauma. Feels pretty terrible right? You may have already lived through this once, if you’re old enough to really remember 9/11. Fear gripped the nation, emotions ran high, and everyone looked for answers and…

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  • What Is Sex And Relationship Coaching? How Can It Help Me?

    Sex and Relationship Coaching is change-focused. I support clients in making the changes they seek in their life.When you want to change something about your relationship or your sex life – NOW – hire me. What kinds of things does sex and relationship coaching include? Your work with me typically involves: How and why does…

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  • Coping with COVID-19

    Last Monday, Indiana issued a shelter-in-place order. And here you are, coping with COVID-19. You are ordered, by the authority of the governor, to stay home as much as possible. All non-essential businesses are closed (what is an essential business anyway?) And there is so much uncertainty: how many cases of COVID-19 really exist, how…

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